I am not going to lie, I am seriously considering changing the mission statement of Held Ministries after I heard that answer come out of my mouth! It really expresses the heart of the Father in heaven and what he has asked of this ministry.
So, what does that mean for you, his precious child? How do you come to understand your role in your own story. The first step is for you to understand this...
God did NOT create ANYONE to be a victim.
I love this verse, where the Lord tells us so clearly, that because of his love, we can do anything....
In all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. Romans 8:37
The Lord didn't carry you through that trial so that you could sit around feeling depressed or hopeless for the rest of your life.
I wanted to do that for a long time, I pushed everyone away because there was no way they could understand my pain, I sat and waited for my life to get better, but guess what...it never did. It wasn't until I decided to be an active participant in my own life change, that I saw the truth in that scripture... "I can do all things through Christ, who gives me strength." (Philippians 4:13)
That looks different for everyone but there are a couple keys that you need to have during this process and today we will talk about the first one...
Prayer changes anything and everything
As christians we are really, really good at saying that, but not so good at believing it. So often I would pray from a hopeless place, where the words were coming out of my mouth, but I didn't really believe that God would do anything. How that lie robs God's children. It breaks my heart that satan constantly convinces us that we are powerless and that we pray to a distant God who may or may not care about our plea....WE NEED to grasp the truth about God's heart toward his children.
We are his precious children, and not only does he long to answer our prayers, but there is so much power in bringing the things that weigh on our heart to the Lord. Whether it has been my marriage, my kids behavior, my hurts from churches letting me down, my family drama, WHATEVER, God has shown me that when I become an active participant in prayer, I get to take a front row seat to what God is about to do. Every time, EVERY TIME, I have seen God answer my prayers, it's not always the way I wanted, but it has always been BETTER than what I could ask for, because it was his will, which is best for me.
I will leave you with one example, that is probably close to the hearts of many of you who struggle with changes or hurts in your church...
There was a change coming in my church, and I didn't like it. I was angry, and grieving because someone I loved very much was leaving. Now yes, they were following God's call on their life, but I was still selfishly angry and hurt. I was mostly angry at God. In my mind, my church was going to go down the tubes now. Where was God's protection? Why hadn't he been answering my prayers for my church, this was in fact the opposite to what I had been praying for!!
Well, without going into a million details, I went home and cried out to God in my anger, but because I immediately went to my heavenly father, he rewarded me with an answer. "Lauren, Trust me. You have prayed far to long for my will in this church, and you need to trust that I am working out my will right now, even though it hurts."
Amazing, anger instantly melted, a heart of trust began to wait expectantly for the goodness of God to show up in my church. And let me tell you, it has. I miss my friend, pastor, mentor, family...but I have seen God move my church forward in ways I never, ever imagined possible. I sit in awe on almost a daily basis at the Good things God has done in this church, even through the pain of loss.
Now- do you see the key? There are so many who have not asked for God's perspective in their situation, and so they sit in anger, hurt, disillusionment, and shaken trust. They are victims to their own lack of perspective. We need God's perspective for the hard situations we are walking through. If we don't ask for it, how will we get his heart? How will we have his peace without his perspective?? Ask Him...Ask him for his heart toward that thing that you are walking through, be willing to listen for his answer and TRUST him even if the answer isn't what you wanted to hear. My next post will talk about the 2nd key which is that TRUST relationship that we need to have with Jesus to be able to walk free from the seat of a victim, but today, practice the first key to your freedom. PRAY. Ask the Lord to do amazing things through the painful situation you are in. Keep praying, don't give up, the answer often comes more quickly than we expect.
When we pray, what we are doing is letting God do all the leg work in our circumstance and letting him change our hearts in the process. :)