Hope, Encouragement, Love, and Direction for Women and marriages wounded by sexual sin.
I am your God. I will strengthen you; I will help you; I will uphold you with My victorious right hand.~ Isaiah 41:10
Friday, April 18, 2014
A message from Jackie~Ask for help!
The after effects of a negative sexual experience are long-reaching. However, at the time of the abuse, we give no thought to how it may affect our future - either as the victim or of the perpetrator. For many, even after several years go by, it can be difficult to put two-and-two together and realize why you feel or react certain ways that you know are not “normal”. That’s how it was for me. It can also be difficult, if some time has passed, to get some console, simply because so much time has passed. When I first seriously began reaching out for help, I had no idea what I really was asking help for. I just knew I was “stuck” - meaning I had gone around and around this mountain so many times, in my own flesh, and it brought me back to the same old place I was before. It was like banging my head against a wall - very frustrating! God know’s our heart and His timing is always perfect. I have learned to trust that about Him. He is always faithful. I called on someone who was wise, knowledgeable and had “been in my shoes” so to speak. I came across this person in the oddest way! When this person learned about me, my history and where I was at today, she used the same word to describe my situation: stuck! She is my mentor and because of the odd way way God brought her into my life, I know she is God’s chosen way to help me on this journey of healing. Healing is a journey that is both painful and joyful at the same time. It is work, but God will be in total control, if we let Him. He leads us into unexpected places that we never knew needed healing, but are so glad God decided He needed to touch that area of our lives. If my story sounds like yours, I urge you, if you haven’t already, to get some sound, Christian help. You have a spiritual problem that only God can fix. Your symptoms may be anger, withdrawal, low self-esteem, keeping your spouse at arm’s length, not trusting men in general, insecurity, and so on. These symptoms can be wide ranging. My healing is not complete yet. It comes in pieces. But as I have learned to look to God and trust Him, He meets me at every baby step I take. This idea of trust in this area of my life is new to me, and I sense that God’s plan is calling for me to take it slow. His plan for me many not be the same as it is for you or someone else. He tailors it for each person. He know’s your needs better than you do! If you need assistance in finding help, feel free to contact me. I will do my best to help you. If you just need someone you can relate to, please get in touch with me. I will be happy to email with you. Most of all, don’t keep it to yourself. I remember someone once sharing with me a quote - and I’ve never forgotten it: “A secret exposed loses its power”. Take that step, and (appropriately) expose your secret and let God set you on the path to freedom! ~Jackie