Hope, Encouragement, Love, and Direction for Women and marriages wounded by sexual sin.

I am your God. I will strengthen you; I will help you;
I will uphold you with My victorious right hand.~ Isaiah 41:10

Thursday, January 2, 2014

How will your wounds define you?

Every woman  has experienced the battlefield that is called…Life. 
We all have wounds that we have gotten along that path…
What has happened to us doesn't necessarily make us unique, so often I walked around grasping onto my wounds thinking that I was the only one who had experienced that kind of pain, I would actually scoff at others who would express pain that they were experiencing….I considered them weak because their wounds were nothing compared to mine. 
Your TYPE of wound doesn't define you. It is what you do with that wound that defines you. 
Some of you have wounds that have had a bandaid applied, You have almost forgotten it is even there, until someone or something bumps up against it too hard. 
A few of you have experienced the loving hand of the Father as he has healed your wound and all you have left is a scar to remind you of his perfect love and healing power in your life. 
While others of you have gaping seeping wounds….They are bleeding, they are painful all the time, and no matter what you do, that wound haunts you every day. This was me for so many years and to you I say, I am sorry...And I promise that it can get better. There is a really GOOD father who happens to be a wonderful spiritual surgeon. He has a track record that is filled with success story after success story. Mine is one of them. 
And what do we do with these wounds??? How do they define who we are??
Some of us hunch over and keep everyone at arms length because we don't want them to even know we have a wound, after all,  then they would know that we don't have the perfect life that we portray so well…
Some of us build up walls to the sky to keep anyone from hurting us further…Oh how often I see this one. We forget that we have a father who really does want to protect us, so we walk around trying to protect ourselves. I did this for years, I shut my own husband out because I was not gonna be vulnerable and experience pain induced by his sin ever again!
Some of us show off our wounds and use our constant victim status to bring scorn to the ones who have hurt us…How many times have you made sure people know WHO hurt you and how wrong they were for doing it? I feel like for a while this was a daily ritual in my life.
Lastly there are a very few that wear their wound openly but humbly wanting the one who healed them to get credit for his incredible surgical skills. 
I want to be the last one on that list…Oh I haven't always been sucessful, I have been in every stage of this list at one point or another, but I realized that what I wanted more than anything was to be whole, to be free, and I didn't want my wounds to hold me back anymore…I didn't want my wounds to chain up the ones who had wounded me either, because real love needs to drive us to want freedom and healing for the ones who have hurt us. Just look at Jesus when he hung on that cross...He forgave those people as he died for all the beating and torture that they had just acted out minutes before. I  want God to use my wounds to make me stronger, to push me forward, and to help those around me who have been wounded too. How about you?? How will you let your wounds define the kind of person you will become?
He heals the brokenhearted, And binds up their wounds. Psalm 147:3

Let him heal your wounds....

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