There is so much wisdom in Hebrews 11, I could honestly write about it for a month, but for now I will condense into 2 parts.
It was by faith that Moses, when he grew up, refused to be treated as the son of Pharaoh’s daughter. He chose to share in the oppression of God’s people instead of enjoying the fleeting pleasures of sin. He thought it was better to suffer for the sake of the Messiah that to own the treasures of Egypt, for he was looking ahead to the great reward that God would give him.
I know that this post may be particularly hard for some women. I am going to ask a lot of you. And I want you to keep in mind that it is for the good of you personally and your marriage, family, and spiritual health. I am going to ask you to DIE to yourself. This is something that most people in the church have heard of before, but it is a concept that often arouses anger in the hearts of the wounded. But keep in mind, while you may be the victim of your husband’s bad choices, you are not meant to live with a victim mentality. God wants you to live everyday as a victor because HE is the victory we need and the victory our husband’s need. Because of him, we can see past our own hurts, and care more about the heavenly destiny God has for our husbands.
When Moses gave up a life of pleasure for a life of hardship it took faith and the ability to see beyond himself. He saw a people, a plan, a God, and eventually a destiny. When you look at your marriage what do you see? Hurt, betrayal, disappointment? I want you to know God sees a future, a testimony, Glory, victory, and freedom.
YOU alone can decide how you are going to respond to the situation you now find yourself in. Are you willing to die to yourself and walk in faith? Or would you rather live like a victim?
I will talk more on this blog about what it looks like to walk in faith for your marriage, but I want to take a lesson from Moses. When he left pharaoh, he didn’t sit and wallow in his family’s hut, feeling sorry for himself. He didn’t ask for pity, because his life had just changed in a way he wasn’t ready for. He got into the mud and straw and began to build bricks with his people.
Rebuilding your marriage will be a process, it goes slow and steady and takes one brick at a time, but PLEASE don’t make your husband build it back up alone, it will take forever, and he will only feel alone, which only leaves him more vulnerable to attack from the enemy. When Moses saw a fellow slave being beaten, he got out of the mud, ran to his rescue and fought FOR him. Are you willing to fight for your husband? Are you willing to build bricks with him? Start today, with just making the decision to be a team, to die to yourself and want God’s glory for your marriage, more that you want to be a victim.